Ever felt that way? Realizing that someone loves you, they love you just the way you are.
And what do you do?
You can’t even look at yourself in the mirror and genuinely smile, because you don’t feel that way at all. At least, not now.
I’ve felt that way.
I used to be so hard on myself. I would doubt myself, having regrets for not doing things differently or being angry at myself for not feeling more relaxed or cool about certain things in my life. I always worried. I’ve also pressured myself, wanting to fix everything I didn’t like about myself. Yes, you can also read this as a big sign of me not loving myself.
But hey, that’s also true!
I wasn’t allowing myself to be me. To be imperfect. And, to accept myself just the way I am, knowing I’ll change the things I want to change, and love the ones that are unique to me.
But he… he saw it.
He accepted me. He didn’t try to change me or rush me. He knew I needed time, and he believed I would get there (whatever that place is).
This is my small thank you to this person. Because it meant a lot to me. Still does.
This simple post has two intentions for you…
First, to make you think of every person who loved you, especially in times when you weren’t loving yourself. Let them know how thankful you are for everything they did for you. Call them, text them, send them a thank you note, mentally or physically, it’s up to you. Tell them “Thank you for accepting me as I am.” and whatever you feel like saying. Just thank them.
And secondly, if you need a reminder that you are lovable just the way you are, here’s one…
I see it all the time, in my friends, clients, family, my closest ones. They forget how special and unique they are.
See Anna! My friend who will do anything for you, even come at 3 at night to cheer you up. She cries when she’s happy, when you’re happy, when there’s a reason to celebrate or love – here come Anna’s tears of joy! 🙂 She’s so genuinely caring about others that she makes YOU feel special. If you have a friend like that… she’s a keeper.
Then there are my clients, who show so much strength during our coaching sessions when they open up their hearts… Crying and tissues all over the place! But you know what? Even though it hurts to talk about some things, they do it anyway! They rise up! Because they know it will be worth it in the end, and that their reward and happiness will be immeasurable. Now, that’s courage!
And finally, there’s my partner. I think the guy doesn’t even have the words “give up” in his dictionary nor he knows the meaning of it. I’ve seen him in one of the hardest times of his life. Yet, that man just stood up, looked up and mumbled something like “I still have a dream to follow, and people to serve” (TRUE story!) and carried on. Talk about “Dust yourself off and try again”. You should see him now! Rocking his business. Making me love him proudly.
They and You and I – we all have one thing in common.
We can be very UNLOVING towards ourselves.
And from time to time, everyone needs someone to remind them how amazing they are.
I bet that you, just like me, sometimes need that reminder too.
So here’s to you – if for some reason you aren’t currently loving yourself…. believe me, I know that you are special and lovable in your own way. Yes, you are. Don’t know how I know that, I just do.
Don’t worry, your friends and family know it too. And so will you.
To express your love, share this article with:
- a friend, a loved one, to remind them how much you appreciate them, and
- someone who loved you during hard times, as a way of saying “thank you”.