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Food for thought
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Love? Always.
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One of the things I regularly hear from people is

One of the things I regularly hear from people is the belief that if you become too kind or too compassionate with yourself, you will often "let yourself off the hook..."
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The premise is: "If I become really compassionate with myself, I'll end up as a couch potato or someone who just doesn't care. Like, I'll convince myself that everything is fine even when it's not. And then what?! No, I need to push myself. I need to be harder on myself if I want to succeed."
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Let's look at this for a moment.

People often mix healthy motivation with criticism.

We think we motivate ourselves when we're being hard on ourselves. We think that if we push or expect more from ourselves, that we're just striving to become better.

OK. Let's go with that.

But what happens when we cross the line?

When that "healthy striving", silently, over time, turns into a voice that starts to sound like: "You should have done this already. Why haven't you?"
"Well, that was a stupid move."
"No one's gonna like this. What are you even doing??"
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It doesn't sound like motivation anymore, does it?

No.

Criticism.

And that's why we need to pay attention to how we treat ourselves. Bring compassion in.

Self-compassion doesn't mean letting yourself do or don't do as you please.
It doesn't mean you should indulge in eeevery-little-thing your heart (or ego) desires.
Nor it gives you permission/excuse to behave in all kinds of crappy ways.

Self-compassion comes with personal responsibility.
It keeps that initial striving a healthy one.

And it comes with a healthy, encouraging self-talk: "I know you don't want to do this, but it will be good for you. C'mon."
or
"It's okay to say "no" to this person because deep down you know you don't want this."
or
"I'm sorry you messed up at work today. Let's see how you can make tomorrow better, to feel better."
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Now, this way of treating yourself isn't an invite to become a couch potato, is it?

So why not give it a go.

Self-compassion.
It will do wonders for your growth.

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This is Hitch. <3
The only thing Hitch wants to do is to play fetch. Always. Endlessly. Obsessively.
Plus, I think he owns every pebble on this beach.

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I've been on this beautiful island for days now, s

I've been on this beautiful island for days now, soaking up the sun, enjoying the never-ending crickets sound, and just appreciating nature's beauty.

Today is my last workshop here. I'll be teaching how to improve our relationships, deepen understanding and appreciation by using NLP magic. It's an interesting one alright ;) and I love the setting!! ❤️ I wouldn't mind holding workshops in a place like this all year long! And more and more I feel it's time I create a place of my own. A place, a Home where I can welcome people who want to grow and do some quality inner work...
Let's see what life brings.

But for now, "see" you on today's Workshop! Looking forward to it! :). #nlp #nlpcoaching #naturelovers #retreat #retreats #yogaretreat #nlpworkshop #workshop #personaldevelopment #relationshipgoals #relationships #loverelationships #innerwork #improvingrelationships #investinginmyself #selfdiscovery #selfappreciation #loveyourself #beyourself #beyou #understandyourself #connectwithyourself #connectwithnature #connectwithyoursoul #partners #mindfulness #exploringyourmind #authenticity #staytruetoyourself #homewithself

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